Veddy Eeenn-tered-sting!

So I was reading a post by Locsuluv which was totally intriguing on several levels, but it prompted me to post a long comment, which I decided to copy to my own blog.

A woman told her that she will meet her mate soon. Locsuluv said, "She shared with me that he will be not of African American descent but Caucasian." Hmm...

My policy on interracial dating is this: it depends on the individual. I've never dated anyone outside my race just "for the sake of" or to "see what it was like." I date people who interest me and treat me well. (And of course it is required that they think I am GORGEOUS!)

I have certain criteria that all men must meet. Not snotty stuff like: he must drive THIS car and have THAT job. Like: the respect he must show to my family and to his family. Like: he must be a thinker. Like: he can go anywhere I can go and not stick out like a sore thumb because of his manners or dress and grooming.

It's funny though, I have held non-black men I have dated to a higher standard because I knew that my family would be much less forgiving of me bringing home a man of any other race who was not both good-looking AND successful. I wouldn't date a deadbeat, period, but any non-AA man had better be able to make an instant good impression with the family. It is just understood.

I never wanted to hear the speech about all the fine brothers out there and...y'all know the rest.

Even if they didn't say it to my face they would have thought it. I'm sure some STILL did.

I've noticed that many of us with SLs are in interracial relationships or have been. Your thoughts...?

I'm sure this subject has been addressed before. Feel free to leave me comments or links to other posts on the subject.