Friday, April 4, 2008

I Love My Sisterlocks!

Have I said that lately?

Not in print. But I do! There's that one picture on the official website where the caption says: "Just when you think your Sisterlocks can't get any more fabulous, they do..."

That's how I feel about mine every day! I should post a few pictures, but you know...first I have to take them, then I have to edit them, then I have to upload them, and it's all too much....

Did I tell y'all I'se gon' be own tv??? (I love the way some southerners pronounce on, which I say 'awn', as 'own' - but anyway, I digress...)

While at the trade show a month ago - yes, that was already a month ago! - I made a contact with one of the local news stations. A representative was intrigued by the Showhomes concept and she passed my story along to one of the reporters. She was equally excited and wants to shoot a story that will air during May sweeps. That's publicity that I couldn't buy.

However, preparations for it are really making me hustle. Plus, I was still working my other job part-time for the regular paycheck. (Showhomes offers homeowners the option to pay for our services at closing, and, yeah, most people take the option to defer payment given the I'm very busy working, but I have yet to actually get paid....)

But I just got to the point where the part-time job was hindering the growth of my business. It was really not worth it. The money I was earning working the job was actually costing me due to lost opportunities to close deals and meet with potential clients and partners.

Just from the stand point of scheduling, it was getting to be not just inconvenient, but actually detrimental. I have to schedule sales meetings and conference calls and the like to be effective at what I do and having to work around the times my employer needed me to be there was just not working - so I put in my notice a few weeks ago.

I wasn't making that much money because my hours were really low, but it was still money I could count on. It paid a few of the bills.

Now the cash flow situation in extremely critical. It is all outgoing and no incoming - Aaagh! Scary!

So, yeah, I said all that to say that I'm really trying to rustle up some business that will be good for the news piece and I'm planning to be out of town next week for a trade show. Therefore taking puctures of my hair is not really high on my list of priorities...but...every time I look in the mirror I think: Wow! They are looking lovely.

I adore this stage and this length. Of course I want them to continue growing, but I can tell this is a length I will miss.

It's a fun, flirty, flippy stage - great for the coming of spring. They are just sassy and full of life and body and swing. I get compliments on them daily and regularly from the same people who have been watching the process from the beginning and from total strangers on the street.

I still love them, but it is always interesting to have people comment on them over and over - how beautiful they are..

I'm sorry. I feel like this post is like: look at me I'm so wonderful. That's not how I mean it. At all. I just know that a lot of people who decide that they want locks hesitate because they wonder what other people will think and they fear a negative reception. There are also blogs I've read and people I've spoken with who have gotten nothing but negative comments from their friends, family and co-workers.

I do get the occasional ignorant statement or question, but, by and large my entire locking experience has been and continues to be very positive, and that's why I wanted to write about it.

This post is not to say: look at me! I'm so beautiful and special and talented....Don't you wish you had it going on like I do?

It's to let others know that positive feedback is out there. A completely positive experience is possible.

I feel like this: You know how some of your friends (or some of you) had difficult pregnancies, but then some women have trouble-free preganancies and quick and easy deliveries? And the same thing happens with relationships. Some of us have all sorts of drama over and over - and not necessarily as the direct result of our own neuroses, either. And then some of us have the easiest courtships after which marriage immediately follows....And we're happy!

I've never been the type to be jealous of other people's successes. I take this view: If she can do it or it worked out well for her, then that means there's hope for me. Or alternatively, in situations where my personal struggles were unavoidable, I have thought: At least someone is having an easy time of it - good for them!

And that's how I feel about my Sisterlocks.

I've read other people's blogs where they had drama from the start - problems necessitating takedowns and issues with bunching or dandruff or tenderheadedness and consultant woes and family opposition, a constant stream of rude comments and questions and all manner of other troubles - none of which were ever in my personal experience.

I just want people to know that it is an easy and painless transition for some of us. I don't think it's due to anything special about me. I am not highlighting myself in any way. I just want other women to know that sometimes it is all good - through and through.

I started my locks a year ago and I have never had any major problems (quite a few minor ones, but none my consultant and I couldn't handle). I have no regrets. I love my Sisterlocks and I know they do look good because I get so much positive feedback from others.

'Cause, you know, sometimes we make a choice and we're just like: this is what I have decided to do and I don't care what others think!

And that's the mindset I had when I started my Sisterlocks - which is all the more reason I really appreciate the positive feeback that I get and that it comes to me on such a regular basis. After all, I expected to love them, but I was mentally and emotionally prepared for the people around me not to.

I had beautiful straight hair and beautiful curly hair - good hair (if I do say so myself! ;-) so I was fully prepared for all of the 'why did you do that to your pretty hair?'-type comments. And other random ignorance. But it didn't happen - not that it never happened, but not nearly as
much as I anticipated it might and prepared myself for.

I wondered about my job interviews and my business introductions, etc. No negative experiences so far, and only people who have commented on how much they like my look.

So, I'm sharing my good news and my good experiences and passing along news of the compliments so that others know that it is good and pleasant for some of us.

I have been happy with my Sisterlocks every day since I got them.


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Cashana said...

Me too!

blackrussian said... know it!!!

Aya said...

Hey BR, Dr.Cornwell should bring you on board to be a sisterlocks spokeswoman. You would be an asset to her business. Though, I couldn't agree with you more. My sisterlocks are one of the best hair decisions I have ever made. Keep on testifying!!!

muslimahlocs said...

good news is always appreciated. and i am right there with you...12 years of love with my sisterlocks. hope we will still get to see you this summer, God-willing.

Maryee said...

Hey Lady!! Yes, the "short and sassy days" as I spoke about in my 4 yr post are quite the fun stage. I think I could have been even more creative now looking back. Enjoy this part of the journey.

Now that my hair is the longest (as my own hair) in my life, I am learning to enjoy what to do with this mane. It's so amazing, especially having Jen say to me when I come home from work, "Girl, your hair long!" I look at her right back and say the same. It's funny, because just a little over 5 years ago I was sporting a bald fade/twa. Well, thanks for the inspirational SL posterchild post. :-) Now, we'll be waiting for you to gon' own' post a pic or two. Blessings...

blackrussian said...

Aya> If she asked me to, I would be a brand ambassador. Can I BE in the magazine?

ML> I do still intend to be there.

The thing I find most amazing about my Sisterlocks love is this: I have always loved them and yet as the months pass, I continue to love them still more.

There was never a time when I did not like the way they looked overall. There were days when individual locks and sections were not as well-behaved as I would have liked, but it was still nothing compared to the bad hair days I used to have before Sisterlocks.

Maryee> I am enjoying accessories and hairstyles I could not have done pre-sisterlocks, my regret will be that I did not take more pictures.

Thank you all for stopping by!


blackrussian said...

Didn't mean to sign it Maryee...Guess I accidentally typed it twice...oops!

muslimahlocs said...

yes, you can be in the magazine. send your photos to the home office. i think the guidelines are posted in the magazine. and if you do make it to the homecoming, it's a safe bet that you will be in there.

blackrussian said...

Thanks ML,

I've thought about it, but y'all know I really don't like taking pictures very much. However, I am always glad that I did it and I have a record of my progress.

Unless something catastrophic happens I will be at conference. I will contact you by email to give you the rest of the details.

SeZ said...

I feel like you do. I should have done this sooner. It was money well spent.