Another post from the archives. Written 4.19.08.
From time to time all of us comment on the fact that we are bored with our Sisterlocks and we need a change.
A friend of a friend recently cut her sisterlocks down to a TWA after 3 years...which I can't imagine...Maybe it is just a hairstyle for some folks, and not the life-altering path to freedom and self-love it is to others.
No judgments either way.
I was also reading the Hair Affairs e-zine that was delivered to my inbox today. There is an article inside that talks about how there are good days and bad days and times along the way when you will get bored with them and tired of them.
I wonder why people are so surprised about that fact. Is that unique to locking? I don't think so.
Women of all races and hair textures get bored with their hair. That's why the beauty industry makes so much money off of styling products and hair color. That's what keeps salons in business.
We all crave change at some point,. It just happens to some of us more often than others. Not having the option to wear our hair straightened seems confining and limiting to some.
People shy away from the perceived permanence of locks, but what baffles me is the fact that these same people fail to realize that it is the same with relaxed hair.
That is permanent. If you want hair that isn't chemicallly straightened you have to cut it and let it grow out again. Hair color is permanent. The only way to 'undo' that chemical process it to go over it again with more color...or cut it and grow it out again.
And how many of us can really wear every look we see in the magazines?
Most of us settle into the same 2 or 3 hairstyles that are quick and convenient. We only make exceptions on special occasions.
Add that to the fact that everybody's hair won't do like the hair models and actresses and video vixens.
This is true for several reasons. 1) No access to wind machines. 2) No on-call access to celeb stylists. 3) All hair IS NOT created equal. 4) Certain styles will NEVER be acheived by those who choose not to use OPH in the form of weaves or wigs.
SO.... what are we REALLY missing out on? Let's be honest...
The perception that relaxed hair gives you greater freedom and hairstyling choices is actually a HUGE misconception!
Locks aren't for everyone. They weren't for me at a different stage in my life, but I want people to realize that while locking is a commitment and a decision not to be made/taken lightly, one should not shy away from getting them because they are too permanent or will give them less options.
Locks offer more options, not less.
There will be times when they will frustrate you - be prepared for that. But don't give up because of bunching or shrinking. Know that it will happen and give them a chance to grow and mature and get over the rough patches.
My hair is more carefree than it has ever been in my life! I have less daily maintenance now than I did with a TWA!
Now, I can use absolutely NO product and my hair still looks good. I can go 5 or 6 weeks between tightenings (although I don't.)
With a TWA, I had to use conditioners and activators, sometimes gel, just to get it to 'do right'. I had to get it shaped up every THREE weeks....And I still only had the one look...
I too look in the mirror every day and think how much I love my locks...how much I am loving them more and more as the weeks and months go by.